Life is a Mirror

The mirror is a hard place to look sometimes.

When you get close up, you realize that all the blackheads and imperfections you see on your skin are actually a part of you.  They’re really in there and the only way to get rid of them is to wash, exfoliate, and even squeeze them out.

Then, you walk away from the mirror and forget that, close-up, you don’t look perfect.  But now, you can see other women, and their flaws seem so much worse than yours!

“Oh My God Becky, Look at her Butt!”

“I can’t believe she’s letting her kids act like that!”

“My husband doesn’t respect me”

When you focus on and point out the “blackheads” and imperfections in those around you, what you are really seeing is your own faults and flaws.

You see Your face in the mirror.  You recognize them because you have seen them so very often before in yourself.  So what now?

Here’s the key:

Understand that you CANNOT change another person.  It’s NOT POSSIBLE.  The most you can do is have a strong influence on them.  In How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie made the most important point first:

“Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.”

Criticism Never Works.

“Never?” you ask.


So, since criticism never works and you can’t change anyone, the only productive use of noticing someone else’s fault is to know that if you are seeing it in them, that’s because you recognize it so much in yourself.

I’m not a fan of “mysticism”, but I’m a huge fan of science and research and I’m a Bible believer as well.  When I first heard about the Law of Attraction, I was skeptical at best. But as I studied more and delved deeper into Quantum Physics, I was overwhelmed by how amazing my Creator is and my faith is His Omniscience was reinforced.

I won’t get into all the details now, but here’s a quick visual overview that simplifies and explains well:



So next time you think “I hate it when he/she does that!”

Stop and ask yourself  “Why am I recognizing that?  What do I need to change in me to stop seeing that in the reflection that is my life?”

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